People rise and fall based on how hard they work. Sacrifice comes along with the price of success or failure and it’s something we all experience in one way or another. The sacrifices one makes continuously after falling shows a great deal about their character and this truth of the matter comes down to who the person truly is and what values are important to them. As I have been thinking about my own life and where this significant and unique word stands to me I have come up with a couple definitions through research online and books I have been reading. After learning about other people’s view of the word, I reflected on my own life and came up with my own definition of true and complete sincere sacrifice; the act of giving up something good for something better is my mother, Laura Tye.
Although indeed it’s Mother’s Day and you’re all probably thinking “how sweet, she writes something nice and beautiful about her mother”, NO, this isn’t supposed to be nice and sweet, this is honest and it’s real and it’s something I’m not even sure my Mother would want anyone knowing, but it’s something I feel strongly about and I think she deserves to be recognized and known for who she truly is and the complete and amazing sacrifices she has made in her life.
It’s funny how sometimes I find myself mocking young girls getting married right after high school or after dating for such a short period of time, thinking to myself “goodness what a huge mistake”, but in reality I can’t, nor should anyone judge anybody’s view on love or determine when somebody is ready or not, because although it may seem young, great things come to pass with following your heart, especially if it’s In line with Gods as well. My mother was married straight out of high school, as an 18 year old she experienced so much at such a young age. From what I’ve observed and learned my mom has turned out to be an AMAZING woman, despite her upbringing and circumstances she has experienced. I admire her so much for that, I can’t even begin to tell you. By the time she was 21 my Mom was raising 3 small kids and her husband at the time, although I’ve heard he was an amazing father (at the time) holding a job was hard for him and she raised her kids on little to nothing. Despite losing cars and homes, my Mom never let us kids know there were hard times, she made the best of any situation and was always finding ways to provide for her kids. She made the clothes we wore, it was rare to have store bought clothes with her first couple of children. She walked to the store with young kids and her brand new baby just to be able to buy groceries, because they had no car and she had no one to babysit her children. She held a day care at her home while raising her own kids to be able to bring in extra income never failing to make sure her children’s needs were met, all along providing a stable foundation in our hearts that all things are possible through Christ. The endless stories I hear from my older siblings about their life growing up weren’t anything but happy and good times, my Mom provided those memories for them and I too have experienced the same.
My Childhood-
As many people know and if you don’t I’m sure you wonder why I look different from my mother, growing up I have always been asked silly questions or have gotten rude remarks based on my ethnicity compared to my mother’s. I mean it’s only natural for people who don’t understand to ask the funny/rude questions about adoption, my family is an expert at answering the questions back with great responses-humor. One time a girl on my little league soccer team asked my Mom why I was brown and she was white, I remember my Mom simply replaying with a serious tone, “when Kauri was a baby we dropped her in the oven and she got a little burnt” – I will never forget the facial expression on that little girls face, she looked terrified and I couldn’t help but burst out laughing! The answer to that simple question, I was adopted.
It’s funny how when people meet my mother they comment about what a great person she was for “saving” us brown kids. Just because some children are adopted from a different country, does NOT mean adopting us was out of pity or charity, my Mom has always taught me and made me feel loved just like every other child in my family. Just because I was adopted did not mean she loved me any less or more then my siblings, we were simply given to my Mom a different way. She always told us that we may not have grown in her tummy, but we grew in heart. Something that still sticks with me to this day.
People sometimes comment that she must have adopted because it was easier then childbirth, what an UNDERSTATMENT that is! If anyone knew the process of how my mom adopted my two brothers, little sister and I they would never make that comment to my Mom. God played an important and vital role in making sure we got to our Mother, it was in no way easy at all and you would be surprised at the outstanding spiritual stories my Mom has about getting us, needless to say, my Mom once again worked hard in attaining her children, we weren’t just given to her.
I know despite things I may have said to my friends growing up when I was venting as a teenager or things I sometimes think about my Mom sometimes when I’m angry, I can honestly say I know everything she has ever done was out of best interest for me, not only as her child, but as a person as well. You may wonder why telling you all those things about my Mom raising her kids was important to share, because yes EVERYBODY’s life is hard, raising kids isn’t easy, financial issues are never easy and neither are marriages, but because of the way my Mom chose to deal with the card she was played in life has truly made all the difference in my own life. This is what I have learned.
It doesn’t matter how you grow up, you can always choose the circumstances for how you want your life to end up, by the determination you have to make a better future, with or without help, if you want it badly enough, you won’t make excuses of money, support or education, you’ll find a way to make it possible. My mom did. When I was 5 years old, my father who basically raised my 4 older siblings, left my family. He was an amazing Dad (so my Mom had said) but after some time something went wrong and he left our family for our nanny and he literally disappeared from our lives. I have never heard from him, nor do I know much about him, only that someone left us for something he felt was better. My parents got in a divorce and we moved to Salt Lake from St. George. My Mom took all the complaints, horrible comments from family members and close friends on how horrible divorce was, but nobody knew the pain and back story my Mom went through. Instead she didn’t fight for her reputation or pride, some of my Aunts mocked her for the divorce saying horrible things. My mom held her head high and continued to make the best of the situation. It was hard for me to understand how family and close friends could be so judgmental and hard towards my Mom, because if they really knew her they would’ve taken the time to understand the divorce is not what was wanted, the situation my Mom was put in is what made it happen, she was just doing the best she could for her kids, he chose to walk away and she protected her children.
My mother remarried and my Dad I grew up with came into our lives. I never understood their marriage and it’s not my place to, but it wasn’t easy for my Mom and yet for years I had no idea what she was going through, no one did, my Mom is above amazing, she is fearless. It’s crazy when I think back on her life and wonder why she stayed in certain situations or why she took the verbal abuse from others. It’s a simply answer, for her kids. She sacrificed her own needs and her own happiness in life for us. For me. It’s true what they say, that you can’t judge anybody or a situation if you haven’t personally lived through it yourself, although that’s very true we all still continue to do it, I mean we’re humans, but understanding my Mom is something very few people know how to do. It’s funny because although she is wonder woman, she is also hated for it at the same time, you have to actually know her and her past to be able to judge her, she’s been through literal hell and back and she has risen above it to prove the woman she is. (I’m still not sure she knows that yet)
My Jr year in HS, my father left our family. ( Second times the charm eh?!) It was very traumatic for me and super hard to comprehend. How could two men leave the same children? Were we not enough to love for someone to stay? As we experienced moving from our home and the process of abandonment all over again, my Mom strengthened us and mourned for us. It never crossed my mind she was hurting too, two men had left her in her life time and hurt her kids. Despite this trial my Mom moved us towards God and help us see that we don’t need to search for a father, we would always have a Heavenly Father who loved us and her. My mom’s love and devotion is something that will always carry me through life.
She has always been constant. She has never left or given up on life even when it pushes her to the limits. She has sacrificed her pride and self-worth literally for her children wanting them to have everything she never did. Countless times in High School she would give us kids her own personal stash of money so we could just go out and be normal like our friends and get lunch, she sacrificed her sleeping time never going to sleep until all her kids were home for the night. In High School I won’t lie, I HATED IT! But that’s just the kind of mother she is, always looking out for her kids making sure they were safe and she seriously wouldn’t go to bed until we had gotten home! She has gone to ALL of our sporting and school events, never missing any, also as siblings she made us go too, we learned hard work and how to be supportive from her. Our testimonies in the gospel have grown to amazing amounts, because there was never a Monday we missed without having family night or family prayer, nor a morning without family scripture study or a vacation without spending Sunday’s at a random ward to make sure we had the sacrament. My mom is literally a spiritual giant! She sacrifices money for memories, creating the best with all of us kids and teaching us to interact with each other instead of just friends, and as siblings we have grown so much closer for that.
From the moment my mother became a Mom her life was dedicated to us kids. The amazing people we have become, though we sometimes forget it, is all because of our mother. With 9 beautiful kids and others waiting up in heaven, my Mom has been the #1 most constant thing in our lives, more importantly, mine. My Mom is more than amazing, she is unbelievably outstanding. When my father left when I was in High School, she took the crazy outburst from us kids left at home and stayed with us no matter how hard we pushed away. Because both fathers left, they didn’t understand the literal hell my Mom went through as her kids hurt in different ways and she was stuck to take care of the mess they left behind. I recall experiencing the pain of abandonment from my father in a horrible way and my Mom took my hardship and loved me despite the horrible things I said and did, something I will never be able to repay her back for.
To say the least, my mother has raised 9 beautiful kids in the Gospel of Jesus Christ and has managed to provide both parent roles for all of us. Sometimes I think she loves us too much that it’s a little much to handle, but I would take her constant love over no love anytime! My favorite memories of her tucking us in as kid and singing the “Christopher Robin” song are so special to me or when I would have growing pains and she would sneak in my room and rub my legs until I went quit crying and went back to sleep are memories of pure love and sacrifice from my mother and I will never forget them. My Mom is amazing, beyond amazing she is the literal rock for who I am and I physically wouldn’t even be where I am today without her. Mom you deserve it all, you deserve so much for the service you have provided for us as kids in this life. I am literally the person I am today because of you and I wouldn’t trade any hardships I learned along the way. You have loved us unconditionally and supported us through everything we’ve done. In the words of Kevin Durrant, you are the real MVP mamma. We don’t need a papa, when we have the best mamma around town. Love you beyond any words could explain! Happy Mothers Day to the greatest woman around <3
Although indeed it’s Mother’s Day and you’re all probably thinking “how sweet, she writes something nice and beautiful about her mother”, NO, this isn’t supposed to be nice and sweet, this is honest and it’s real and it’s something I’m not even sure my Mother would want anyone knowing, but it’s something I feel strongly about and I think she deserves to be recognized and known for who she truly is and the complete and amazing sacrifices she has made in her life.
It’s funny how sometimes I find myself mocking young girls getting married right after high school or after dating for such a short period of time, thinking to myself “goodness what a huge mistake”, but in reality I can’t, nor should anyone judge anybody’s view on love or determine when somebody is ready or not, because although it may seem young, great things come to pass with following your heart, especially if it’s In line with Gods as well. My mother was married straight out of high school, as an 18 year old she experienced so much at such a young age. From what I’ve observed and learned my mom has turned out to be an AMAZING woman, despite her upbringing and circumstances she has experienced. I admire her so much for that, I can’t even begin to tell you. By the time she was 21 my Mom was raising 3 small kids and her husband at the time, although I’ve heard he was an amazing father (at the time) holding a job was hard for him and she raised her kids on little to nothing. Despite losing cars and homes, my Mom never let us kids know there were hard times, she made the best of any situation and was always finding ways to provide for her kids. She made the clothes we wore, it was rare to have store bought clothes with her first couple of children. She walked to the store with young kids and her brand new baby just to be able to buy groceries, because they had no car and she had no one to babysit her children. She held a day care at her home while raising her own kids to be able to bring in extra income never failing to make sure her children’s needs were met, all along providing a stable foundation in our hearts that all things are possible through Christ. The endless stories I hear from my older siblings about their life growing up weren’t anything but happy and good times, my Mom provided those memories for them and I too have experienced the same.
My Childhood-
As many people know and if you don’t I’m sure you wonder why I look different from my mother, growing up I have always been asked silly questions or have gotten rude remarks based on my ethnicity compared to my mother’s. I mean it’s only natural for people who don’t understand to ask the funny/rude questions about adoption, my family is an expert at answering the questions back with great responses-humor. One time a girl on my little league soccer team asked my Mom why I was brown and she was white, I remember my Mom simply replaying with a serious tone, “when Kauri was a baby we dropped her in the oven and she got a little burnt” – I will never forget the facial expression on that little girls face, she looked terrified and I couldn’t help but burst out laughing! The answer to that simple question, I was adopted.
It’s funny how when people meet my mother they comment about what a great person she was for “saving” us brown kids. Just because some children are adopted from a different country, does NOT mean adopting us was out of pity or charity, my Mom has always taught me and made me feel loved just like every other child in my family. Just because I was adopted did not mean she loved me any less or more then my siblings, we were simply given to my Mom a different way. She always told us that we may not have grown in her tummy, but we grew in heart. Something that still sticks with me to this day.
People sometimes comment that she must have adopted because it was easier then childbirth, what an UNDERSTATMENT that is! If anyone knew the process of how my mom adopted my two brothers, little sister and I they would never make that comment to my Mom. God played an important and vital role in making sure we got to our Mother, it was in no way easy at all and you would be surprised at the outstanding spiritual stories my Mom has about getting us, needless to say, my Mom once again worked hard in attaining her children, we weren’t just given to her.
I know despite things I may have said to my friends growing up when I was venting as a teenager or things I sometimes think about my Mom sometimes when I’m angry, I can honestly say I know everything she has ever done was out of best interest for me, not only as her child, but as a person as well. You may wonder why telling you all those things about my Mom raising her kids was important to share, because yes EVERYBODY’s life is hard, raising kids isn’t easy, financial issues are never easy and neither are marriages, but because of the way my Mom chose to deal with the card she was played in life has truly made all the difference in my own life. This is what I have learned.
It doesn’t matter how you grow up, you can always choose the circumstances for how you want your life to end up, by the determination you have to make a better future, with or without help, if you want it badly enough, you won’t make excuses of money, support or education, you’ll find a way to make it possible. My mom did. When I was 5 years old, my father who basically raised my 4 older siblings, left my family. He was an amazing Dad (so my Mom had said) but after some time something went wrong and he left our family for our nanny and he literally disappeared from our lives. I have never heard from him, nor do I know much about him, only that someone left us for something he felt was better. My parents got in a divorce and we moved to Salt Lake from St. George. My Mom took all the complaints, horrible comments from family members and close friends on how horrible divorce was, but nobody knew the pain and back story my Mom went through. Instead she didn’t fight for her reputation or pride, some of my Aunts mocked her for the divorce saying horrible things. My mom held her head high and continued to make the best of the situation. It was hard for me to understand how family and close friends could be so judgmental and hard towards my Mom, because if they really knew her they would’ve taken the time to understand the divorce is not what was wanted, the situation my Mom was put in is what made it happen, she was just doing the best she could for her kids, he chose to walk away and she protected her children.
My mother remarried and my Dad I grew up with came into our lives. I never understood their marriage and it’s not my place to, but it wasn’t easy for my Mom and yet for years I had no idea what she was going through, no one did, my Mom is above amazing, she is fearless. It’s crazy when I think back on her life and wonder why she stayed in certain situations or why she took the verbal abuse from others. It’s a simply answer, for her kids. She sacrificed her own needs and her own happiness in life for us. For me. It’s true what they say, that you can’t judge anybody or a situation if you haven’t personally lived through it yourself, although that’s very true we all still continue to do it, I mean we’re humans, but understanding my Mom is something very few people know how to do. It’s funny because although she is wonder woman, she is also hated for it at the same time, you have to actually know her and her past to be able to judge her, she’s been through literal hell and back and she has risen above it to prove the woman she is. (I’m still not sure she knows that yet)
My Jr year in HS, my father left our family. ( Second times the charm eh?!) It was very traumatic for me and super hard to comprehend. How could two men leave the same children? Were we not enough to love for someone to stay? As we experienced moving from our home and the process of abandonment all over again, my Mom strengthened us and mourned for us. It never crossed my mind she was hurting too, two men had left her in her life time and hurt her kids. Despite this trial my Mom moved us towards God and help us see that we don’t need to search for a father, we would always have a Heavenly Father who loved us and her. My mom’s love and devotion is something that will always carry me through life.
She has always been constant. She has never left or given up on life even when it pushes her to the limits. She has sacrificed her pride and self-worth literally for her children wanting them to have everything she never did. Countless times in High School she would give us kids her own personal stash of money so we could just go out and be normal like our friends and get lunch, she sacrificed her sleeping time never going to sleep until all her kids were home for the night. In High School I won’t lie, I HATED IT! But that’s just the kind of mother she is, always looking out for her kids making sure they were safe and she seriously wouldn’t go to bed until we had gotten home! She has gone to ALL of our sporting and school events, never missing any, also as siblings she made us go too, we learned hard work and how to be supportive from her. Our testimonies in the gospel have grown to amazing amounts, because there was never a Monday we missed without having family night or family prayer, nor a morning without family scripture study or a vacation without spending Sunday’s at a random ward to make sure we had the sacrament. My mom is literally a spiritual giant! She sacrifices money for memories, creating the best with all of us kids and teaching us to interact with each other instead of just friends, and as siblings we have grown so much closer for that.
From the moment my mother became a Mom her life was dedicated to us kids. The amazing people we have become, though we sometimes forget it, is all because of our mother. With 9 beautiful kids and others waiting up in heaven, my Mom has been the #1 most constant thing in our lives, more importantly, mine. My Mom is more than amazing, she is unbelievably outstanding. When my father left when I was in High School, she took the crazy outburst from us kids left at home and stayed with us no matter how hard we pushed away. Because both fathers left, they didn’t understand the literal hell my Mom went through as her kids hurt in different ways and she was stuck to take care of the mess they left behind. I recall experiencing the pain of abandonment from my father in a horrible way and my Mom took my hardship and loved me despite the horrible things I said and did, something I will never be able to repay her back for.
To say the least, my mother has raised 9 beautiful kids in the Gospel of Jesus Christ and has managed to provide both parent roles for all of us. Sometimes I think she loves us too much that it’s a little much to handle, but I would take her constant love over no love anytime! My favorite memories of her tucking us in as kid and singing the “Christopher Robin” song are so special to me or when I would have growing pains and she would sneak in my room and rub my legs until I went quit crying and went back to sleep are memories of pure love and sacrifice from my mother and I will never forget them. My Mom is amazing, beyond amazing she is the literal rock for who I am and I physically wouldn’t even be where I am today without her. Mom you deserve it all, you deserve so much for the service you have provided for us as kids in this life. I am literally the person I am today because of you and I wouldn’t trade any hardships I learned along the way. You have loved us unconditionally and supported us through everything we’ve done. In the words of Kevin Durrant, you are the real MVP mamma. We don’t need a papa, when we have the best mamma around town. Love you beyond any words could explain! Happy Mothers Day to the greatest woman around <3
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